6 Reasons Name-Calling Can be a Healthy Part of Mediation
In some circles, name-calling is considered to be counterproductive in a mediation session. Some mediators suggest “no name-calling” as a helpful ground rule. While choosing to call someone by their...
View ArticleEven the Best Mediation Doesn’t Eliminate Differences – Nor Should It
In the heat of conflict, we experience diminished access to our sense of inner strength and our awareness of our connection to others. At these times, we behave destructively, in ways that harm...
View ArticleSocial Networking Ain’t Transformative Mediation
“My God, you are an idiot! Those people [who share your political perspective] are vile and despicable and should be ashamed of themselves!” That’s an actual quote from a Facebook conversation I...
View ArticleLitigation–Style Mediation Has Got to Go
It’s entirely understandable that retired judges and experienced litigators would want to work as mediators. In their work, they’ve seen how expensive, exhausting and frustrating lawsuits were for...
View ArticleMediating Civil Cases: The Domestic Violence and Mediation Safety Project
You have the rare opportunity on June 21st to hear a highly sophisticated conversation about mediation in cases where there’s been a history of domestic violence. Jody Miller, founder of “The Domestic...
View ArticleWhy Don’t Transformative Mediations Get Violent?
“It’s important to set ground rules at the start of a mediation, and then you can remind the parties of those rules if they get off track later,” said a trainee in one of my mediation courses. By the...
View ArticleNew York Times Article: Close but Missed some Key Points
A few days ago, The New York Times published an article that mentioned transformative mediation, Baruch Bush, and Joe Folger. While it’s great to see any mention of those three subjects in that...
View ArticleThe Only Impartial Direction is Up
Here’s me trying to persuade another mediator that she’s not being impartial if settlement is her goal. I’m not going to be able to persuade her, but what do you think? Dan: So when you mediate, you...
View ArticleFAQ’s from Mediators
I often present to mediators for an hour or so on the transformative approach. There are certain questions that come up regularly. Here’s a typical conversation I might have with these mediators toward...
View ArticleFAQ’s from Mediators, Part 2
A couple months ago I posted a typical conversation between the mediators who attend my brief presentations and me. You can read that post here. And here is a continuation of that conversation....
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